Are you planning your wedding? With Michael and my wedding coming up in a few days, I thought I would share some of the things that I learned while planning our wedding.
- Don’t Bring an Entourage to Pick Out Your Dress
I watched so many shows on TLC about girls bringing people to pick out her perfect gown. Sometimes its ok, but usually nobody can agree on what they like, they forget about the Brides feelings. I saw so many sad Brides on that show because of different tastes in dresses. So I decided that the ONLY person coming with me to pick out my dress was MY MOM. I know my Mom would have my feelings and my taste in dresses in mind over hers. Then once I picked out my dress than I allowed my Bridal Party, Grandmother and Dad to see my dress. Then there were no hurt feelings, because my dress was already picked, and purchased.
- Don’t Pay Attention to the Size
My biggest weakness is my size. I am a plus size women, and when my wedding dress size was BIGGER than my usual dress size, my heart sank, I thought I had gained A LOT of weight. When really wedding dress sizes are SLIGHTLY different than regular dress sizes. But I am glad that I didn’t try to lose the weight to fit into what my “usual” dress size, I took the ladies advice at the dress store, and ordered the size that she said I should get. And I am really glad I did, because I did actually gain weight (I wish I didn’t Stress Eat). But when I got all dolled up for my Bridal Portraits, I felt SO BEAUTIFUL! I had a dress that flattered my curves and it was altered to make me look great. I can’t WAIT to see Michael and everyones faces when I walk down the aisle.
- Compromises WILL Happen
My fiancé and I have slightly different tastes and opinions on things. I like big, colorful, and blingy, but Michael likes things more laid back, plain and simple. But at least when it comes to most of the decorations, we were able to agree. But we made compromises on somethings. Sometimes we were able to come to a compromise quickly and easily, but other times, we had disagreements and coming to a compromise was harder and took a little longer to come to an agreement.
- You and Your Hubby-To-Be Will Get Emotional
Michael and I both got emotional while planning our wedding. I different ways. He was quick to get snappy, frustrated, and even to give up easily. I on the other hand would hear a song that was involved in the wedding, (My Precessional w/ My Dad, Our First Dance, or the Father/Daughter Dance Song) and I would just start BAWLING! It didn’t matter where I was, I would just start crying. Its easy to get frustrated durning this time because theres A LOT of stress involved in planning a wedding, and when the dates get closer and closer the more stressful things get.
- Having Mental Break Downs are OK
About 3-4 Months out I had a really bad mental break down because A LOT things for the wedding were stressing me out. I had people getting really upset that they couldn’t bring plus ones, or that the price of the hotel rooms were too expensive, or that people who RSVP’d yes suddenly weren’t coming. Also we had people telling us how we were doing it “wrong” because the groomsmen were “over dressed” in their opinion or that we should be married in a church and not on the beach.
- Don’t Make Everyone Happy, Make You and Your Hubby-To-Be Happy
When I first became a Bride-To-Be back in 2014 I thought I had it planned out on how to make my Bridesmaids, and each family HAPPY. But once I got hit with reality, the money for certain things that I wanted just wasn’t there, or there wasn’t enough space to invite all of each of our families, some friends and be able to allow people to bring plus ones. It upset people because they wanted to bring boyfriends/girlfriends where there was honestly no room for them. But once the wedding came closer and closer I began to realize that making everyone else happy, wasn’t making Michael or I happy. Now, a few days away from the wedding, we are happy with everything, and now all we want to do is walk down the aisle and get married!!
- Don’t Invite Everyone
I struggled wait this because there were so many people that I really really wanted to invite. But when it came to picking someone in the family that I don’t get to see often because they live in a different state, or a friend from middle school that I rarely speak to on Facebook, I picked family. I wanted to invite so many friends from High School, when in reality, I really hadn’t spoken to them since graduation. Don’t feel the need to invite your best friends brothers girlfriends brother. Only invite people you know, and enjoy being around.
- Not Everyone Needs A Plus One
When we first came up with our Guest List we had TONS of Plus Ones for people, but it took our Guest List to 230! Our Venue only holds 120 people comfortably! So we cut down A LOT and it took our list to 186. Which it was STILL A LOT, But once we got all of the YES RSVP’s back, all the numbers worked out, and we are FULL but it will be a room FULL of our friends and family, which we are SO excited for!
- Don’t Sweat the Small Things
Our wedding is just a few days away, I now don’t care about anything (EXCEPT FOR THE RAIN! BEACH WEDDING IN THE RAIN IS A NO GO, AND THE RAIN IN VA HASNT STOPPED FOR DAYYYYSSSS!!!) I just want to get married! But I know that I am slightly OCD and Controlling with things because I have anxiety about change, and things coming out, not how I picture something. But I am going to try not to stress because, the important thing, is getting married to the Love of My Life!
I hope that these little tips help out all the KLP Brides, and ALL the Brides out there! You’re going to be a BEAUTIFUL BRIDE!
